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Good bye spanking hello poison! Is there a better way?
I’ve heard older people complain that children nowadays are so ‘naughty’ that they wished these kids would just get a good spanking then they’ll learn. The current problem with children’s misbehavior isn’t inexperience or lack of wisdom on the children’s part, it is actually a toxins problem. When the brain and body has toxins in it, we no longer have clear thinking. It is frustrating for these children to communicate when their communication abilities are disrupted. Their brains are overstimulated and all the switches are on auto and replay. You would go bonkers too!
Of course, I believe there are better ways to manage children’s behavior than spanking. Hurting children for not being able to communicate well or manage their emotions isn’t going to change things for them or motivate good behavior. I must admit as a parent who has had a stressful day and the child just doesn’t obey even when it is for their own good I have slapped a hand or two out of frustration. But I know that there are better ways to handle this power struggle.
We easily revert to what we know when we are angry, tired or upset. That anger comes from a fear that we can’t get control over this situation unless we use force because we are bigger and stronger. This teaches our children bullying, fear and other negative things. So dealing with this by hitting because of our own subconscious fears isn’t a great way to handle this issue. How do we train ourselves to be calm? There are a ton of oils for that!
Nowadays, instead of the spanking people have turned to using candy. Today I want to talk to motivating behavior without candy! The modern extrinsic motivator is to offer candy is everywhere. Kids and adults have been conditioned to behave in a way to earn candy. I am not 100% against treats especially when they are healthy as a reward but I am against giving toxic candy to children. Besides the whole issue about how sugar feeds fungus and how fungus causes other candida health problems ranging from A-Z (Allergies, asthma, arthritis all the way to Zygomycosis), candy contains a lot of artificial colors. What’s the big deal with artificial colors?
Below are a list of artificial colors, what damage it can do and where it is found. Yikes! 1
Blue #1 (Brilliant Blue) An unpublished study suggested the possibility that Blue 1 caused kidney tumors in mice. What it’s in: Baked goods, beverages, desert powders, candies, cereal, drugs, and other products.2
Blue #2 (Indigo Carmine) Causes a statistically significant incidence of tumors, particularly brain gliomas (tumors), in male rats. What it’s in: Colored beverages, candies, pet food, & other food and drugs.3
Citrus Red #2 It’s toxic to rodents at modest levels and caused tumors of the urinary bladder and possibly other organs. What it’s in: Skins of Florida oranges.4
Green #3 (Fast Green) Caused significant increases in bladder and testes tumors in male rats. What it’s in: Drugs, personal care products, cosmetic products except in eye area, candies, beverages, ice cream, sorbet; ingested drugs, lipsticks, and externally applied cosmetics.5
Red #3 (Erythrosine) Recognized in 1990 by the FDA as a thyroid carcinogen in animals and is banned in cosmetics and externally applied drugs. What it’s in: Sausage casings, oral medication, maraschino cherries, baked goods, candies. 6
Red #40 (Allura Red) This is the most-widely used and consumed dye. It may accelerate the appearance of immune-system tumors in mice. It also causes hypersensitivity (allergy-like) reactions in some consumers and might trigger hyperactivity in children. What it’s in: Beverages, bakery goods, dessert powders, candies, cereals, foods, drugs, and cosmetics.78
Yellow #5 (Tartrazine) Yellow 5 causes sometimes-severe hypersensitivity reactions and might trigger hyperactivity and other behavioral effects in children. What it’s in: Pet foods, numerous bakery goods, beverages, dessert powders, candies, cereals, gelatin desserts, and many other foods, as well as pharmaceuticals and cosmetics.9
Yellow #6 (Sunset Yellow) Caused adrenal tumors in animals and occasionally causes severe hypersensitivity reactions. What it’s in: Color bakery goods, cereals, beverages, dessert powders, candies, gelatin deserts, sausage, cosmetics and drugs.10
Growing Brains and Body
Our brain doesn’t stop developing until our 20s! The are no nutritional benefits at all having these artificial coloring in some of these foods. Consider it poison. I don’t like it when people give my kids candy. Knowing what I know, I can’t offer it to my kids. For the most part, my kids know not to eat it. The younger kids still need more education. I am always educating my children on putting the right ‘building blocks and fuel’ into their body.
When the brains and body is poisoned, the children’s behavior is the least of your worries. The slow build up of toxins cause long term health problems. When the build up is too great, it manifests into a health problem. Sometimes people get surprised because they suddenly ‘caught’ a disease. Disease is a breakdown of communication between cells. Toxins and stress causes this break down of communication between cells.
Essential Oil Suggestions
When we clean up our cells and feed it the right nutrients, it resumes communication again. Along with a healthy diet, sleep and exercise, here are some oil suggestions for you as a STARTING place to bring the body back to balance.
Cinnamon oil: Rub on feet to reduce sugar cravings
Lemon & Grapefruit oil: For a general daily cleanse and detox. Put 2-3 drops of each in water and drink 2-3 times a day.
DigestZen: Helps the digestive system eliminate more thoroughly and easily.
Cilantro: Rub on the big toes (head reflex) daily to assist the body in cleansing out heavy metals.
TerraZyme: Helps break down hard to digest ingredients and assist in elimination. Enzymes also helps with rebuilding and repairing tissues.
Ideas for Good Behaviors Rewards other than Candy
As cliche as it sounds, LOVE is always the answer! Talk, spend time with your kids and help them feel important. When children know you love them, you can ‘cash in’ that trust and get them to do things without bribery or extrinsic rewards.
To encourage certain good behavior like being polite, considerate, doing homework or chores independently, being honest etc. I like to explain clearly and teach by example. The intrinsic rewards work really well for most children I have taught and my own children. Praise, recognition, a smile, cheer, and sheer love is enough for most kids. I like certificates and awards to mark accomplishments to encourage more of that behavior.
The best thing I’ve done is to develop a love and respect for myself. Then the children learn to do the same for them. Respecting myself is the foundation and the actions of respect follows. One way is not to feed my body bad foods. Once in a while I might ‘cheat’ and have a taste but not often. The children are learning that too. Hey…I’m only human.